Notes to Self

Dear Beautiful Self

As you continue to grow you will be lucky enough to find a few people who are committed to the incredible soul that you embody. They will amaze you, they will bless you, they will impress you. But you must understand that there is a limit to the care they can extend and the responsibility to take care of you, first and foremost, belongs to you.

Take good care of your self.

You will long to be loved in ways that you know you deserve. You will contend with those who cannot be bothered to go that extra mile. Imperfection is a plight of the human condition. In many cases, they mean well and do not know how deeply it hurts you when you are loved mediocrely. But you must understand that the responsibility to love you well, in the ways that you desire, first and foremost, rests with you.

Give unconditional love to your self.

You will argue with the many voices in your head about the right way to deal with life. You will sometimes find it is difficult and nearly impossible to come to an agreement. There will be times when you will be so hard on yourself and you will find it difficult to give you the space to put you first. But you must understand that the responsibility to know when to prioritise your well being over the desire to please others, first and foremost, is yours to have.

Prioritise yourself to your self.

You will face many criticisms about who you are, how you are and what you are. You will  make changes but never be perfect. You will hurt, you will cry, you will at times struggle to find safe spaces to express your deepest innermost thoughts. But you must understand that the responsibility to be the one place you need, where it is always safe to be you and where only kind eyes will stare back, first and foremost, is for you.

Be kind to your beautiful self.

When you have made habits out of the above, you will be better able to extend the same care, the same love, the same priority, the same kindness to the “others” in your life. But you, gorgeous self, must begin by seeing you.

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I See You In the Seasons

I have seen you in the Summer, dear

How your heart is warm to me

I have danced with you in the outdoors

I have rested ‘neath the trees.

 

I have seen you in the Autumn, dear

How you love unselfishly

Shedding leaves and changing colour

Making art for me to see.

 

Now I see you in the Winter, dear

How the rain can turn to snow

How you thrill my heart with wonder

Giving nights a special glow.

 

I will meet you in the Spring, dear

How my heart will know it’s you

Now your love bids seasons come and go

Promising, “I will be true.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What Do You Think?

“It’s never a good idea to discuss religion or politics with people you don’t really know.” Agree or disagree? – The Daily Post

Interesting question.

The thing about politics, religion and other topical…well…topics (I couldn’t resist), is that they tend to connect people. Bonding takes place among individuals when there are common interests. But I’ve also found that sometimes conflicts bring people together. Some of my best friendships were formed after heated discussions, flaring tempers and mismanaged words. Whatever the case may be, we’d have to open ourselves to the risks that lie in sharing our views on politics and religion. 

Some of the most memorable conversations I’ve had have been with people I barely knew.  So as I think about this question, I’m asking myself, “Why would I not want to discuss politics or religion with people unfamiliar to me?” Isn’t the point of conversation to engage, learn and/or impart? Perhaps if the goal of such discussions is just to air my views, maybe I shouldn’t talk to anyone…about anything…period. Conversations, discussions, or whatever we may call them, are not just about ideas. They are about people. So if every time I open my mouth to speak, I am just fixed on making my voice heard, then I should probably only talk to myself. No one wants to listen to a self-centered speaker who doesn’t care to hear the opinions of others. Whatever our strong views are, we owe it to people to show respect for them, even if we disagree with the stances they take.

Here’s my bottom line – any interaction with people we don’t know is ridden with risk. There’s hardly a way to predict responses. A simple “how are you” can emit the most outrageous of answers and could end up in quarrels. I believe there’s a right way and a wrong way to do things. And I think if we find the right way, we should feel free to voice our opinions and raise discussions about things we strongly believe in. And in so doing, we might discover meaningful encounters with strangers waiting to be friends. We might find enemies who need extra grace. We might find different perspectives that challenge ours and which help us solidify what we say we believe. But I’ve found that the greatest discovery has been that I do have the right to share my ideas as much as others, and somehow, I agree. Somehow, I burst past the fear of not knowing how to answer, or what to ask next, what to think and I launch into a place of such renewed confidence. 

So I say, speak up!